SPD Support Forum

Hi my name is Corissa and I am the mother of a beautiful 4 year old daughter with SPD along with severe seperation anxiety disorder, learning disorders along with other things. In my free time I play games online or do research but the thing I enjoy most is spending quality time with my children and family ( I also have a soon to be 16 year old son). Lately I have been finding myself wrapped in my thoughts wonder if my daughter has all the problems that she does because of something I done or didn't do or possibly because of the hormones that they had to put me on when I was pregnant for her so that I could carry her due to the fact that it was high risk because I had lost 2 children prior to conceiving her one was still born due to premature labor and the other was a miscarriage. My daughter can say the alphabet and numbers up to 10 but can't recognize them she can't write but she keeps trying the only letter she can make is an A yay she don't know her address even though we constantly practice it she has night terrors, don't eat much, pulls her hair out, bites herself. I'm not looking for anyone to feel sorry for us I just need advice. Feel free to send me an email at corissa_stephens@hot mail.com any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hi there! It's so easy for us mommies to ask ourselves where we went wrong or if it was something we did and oftentimes we never get that answer. It helps me more to focus on the 'what can I do' as opposed to the 'what went wrong'. I'm here because *I* unofficially have SPD and for me, it was situational causation. Do you take your daughter to a therapist? Are her sensory issues across the board or more in one or two categories?

Hi Corissa,
I just wanted to say that you can't blame yourself for your daughter's SPD. I have SPD, and I know my mother wonders if there's something she could have done, but as far as we know, it's not her fault (or your fault) at all. You are fortunate that you have an idea what it is so early. When they are young like that their brains are still changing so much! There are awesome success stories for people who have taken their SPD children to occupational therapy and have had great results. The best I know of is the STAR center in Denver, CO that specializes in SPD, but I'm sure there are other great places too. Just accepting her for who she is and helping her cope with her challenges will be wonderful. That's what I wanted from my mom. God bless her; she did the best she could, but she says if she knew about SPD when I was a child, she would have been more understanding.