(06-17-2011, 05:33 PM)IBKerrys Wrote: I am trying to get my oldest to fix his own breakfast too. Doesn't seem to matter that I have already made his drink and its in the fridge, his cereal is in the bowl and the milk is pre-measured ... nope. He refuses to put them together and therefore I must get up less I want to hear him tantrum for the next however long it takes me to get out of bed and do it. *sigh* This too shall pass yes?? I pray it does anyhow.

I just read Sensational Kids by Lucy Jane Miller. It's a good book. It may not be that your son refuses. He may have neurological difficulties that make it impossible. Miller points out that normally developing children try things that are difficult for them, they screw up until they get it right, they want to succeed. But for some of us, we just can't get there from here. I wrote a couple of posts about this on Sensorina.com

Hang in there, I know it can be difficult, frustrating and worrisome. But you are looking for help and answers and you willl find them.