I don't know what kind of marriage you have Marci, but in my world you can't "make" your husband go anywhere he doesn't choose to go.

JustMom,
I completely empathize with how you're feeling. My daughter was just evaluated and diagnosed two weeks ago. It is indeed overwhelming. It seems I'm spending about 2-3 hours every night on the web educating myself about SPD. My husband is on board, but some other family members are not. What "worked" with them was that I printed the symptoms checklist and asked them to complete it so I could take it to the evaluation so the OT wouldn't just be relying on my opinion. They filled it out (because everyone likes to put in their two cents worth) and were pretty blown away by how many of the symptoms she had. After the eval, I gave them a print out of simple things to do at home to help a child with SPD. My adult son came over a few days later and tried to incorporate some of the suggestions and came to me later in the day to say, "wow, I didn't realize how hard it is to get her to look at me when I'm telling her something." Other family members now understand why she has alway spoke in such a booming voice or why she's so rough with other children or why she'll walk around with soaked pants and not seem to notice. The key was that their awareness changed once they had seen the symptoms checklist and small ways to interact with her that may differ from the way one might deal with other children. My day care person had been having a difficult time getting her to sit for a few minutes each day to do one workbook page in a kindergarten prep workbook. After she read the things to do at school recommendations, before doing workbook time she asked her to help her do some picking up and gave her some heavy things to move, then let her play on a yoga ball for five minutes. Then she had her sit to do the workbook page (while chewing gum) and she was able to complete it with no problems. Sometimes people just need to see the treatment working to believe the diagnosis is real. I hope that's what happens with your husband. One of the first things the OT asked my husband and me before the evaluation was whether or not our daughter played us against each other. She said treatment is really hard if both parents aren't on the same page. Perhaps you could also explain to him that the younger your son gets treatment the better the outcome will be, so it would be best for your son for him to get on board now to avoid bigger problems later--that might appeal to the "grab the bull by the horns" mentallity that is so prevelant with men.