First don't listen to those people telling you that you are too soft. Ok, now that I have gotten that out of the way. lol You will be sensitive right now because it is so new to you, believe me that will pass! Punishing by hitting or time outs only makes things worse! I remember before I knew what was going on with my son ( he is 8 now) and I would put him in time out it would make things worse, why?!?!? Being restrained in a sense can't tolerate it! Well... once I got the diagnosis the flood gates opened and then I was able to figure out what ot do! SPD kids are very visual. Use visual cues, it will take time but it will work. A big one that I had shared on here some time ago was I have my kids do push ups, they hate it but.... it is good for my son with SPD, he too is a sensory seeker! Her social skills will come with time that is a big one. My son still hits but mostly his brother. He has just actually hit a huge milestone and used his words a week ago and told another child "I just don't like to be touched" I about dropped over! Heavy work is awesome for sensory seekers! Weighted items; blankets, lap pads, etc... That is why they are all over, well give them what they are looking for! Because she is so sensitive even being accidently bumped can in her mind make her think someone hit her. My son had to learn that sometimes we bump into each other you can't hit someone every time they bump into you. As for your father, this is your child, he needs to learn and educate himself because I'll tell you what I had a hell of a time with my ex in laws, they used to tease my son which he takes everything literally and did not understand the teasing and it would send him into meltdowns. I finally ripped them all apart! I had had it! The stupidity make me want to vomit! I am not a person who will hold back, when it comes to my kids I really don't care about the other persons feelings regardless of who they are. Children cannot defend themselves to an adult, they have to be respectful, but my feelings are.... we are their parent, advocate, protector they depend on us to have their back. Believe me I have mine! Be blunt, again I have said this in other posts. I have made up business cards to hand out, explains what my child has then directs them to a site where they can educate themselves! There are no excuses these days when we have so much advertising and chairities advertised all over regarding different disorders. It is not like when I grew up (70's) and if you had special needs you were stuck in a room like you had leoprocy and nobody knew why you were in there but YOU WERE! lol So there is no reason for ignorance!~ ANyway.... Get used to her name being called out, every time I see the schools phone number show up on my phone, I know why! lol I am on a first name basis with the principal and asst. principal! lol Get some books, Out of Sync Child is a great one, keep posting on here your road blocks and we will share what we can. I say make yourself a behavior chart, the stop light one is easy and good to use. Gives the three warnings and have pockets on it to move a popsicle stick or something that maybe she can make to move when a warning is given, by the third warning you go to do your 5 push ups ( good for deep pressure). I find that transitions are easier with knowing what will happen. I tell my son " First warning!" Move his thing to yellow, he zips right back into shape. If she has trouble transitioning that can be hard thing for them too, set timers then she is aware and can prepare herself for the change. "You have 10 min and I am setting the timer when it goes off we are done". Print out picture cards they are free online, I also taught myself some basic sign language; "finished, more, etc... " things that if you are in a situation where you cannot do push ups sign "finished" and eventually it will work. Do not avoid social settings for her, she needs to learn this, from what I understand this is the hardest and comes last. I will think of more stuff now that I have written you a novel! hahaahahah Everything will be ok, find what she is most interested in and go with it, use that to your advantage. A lot of heavy work before you go somewhere, let her go and run and jump before you have to go somewhere that you have to sit for some time, get a sit fit cushion they are like $25, my son has used his since pre school. Don't let anyone tell you anymore about what you aren't doing ignore them and focus on what you are doing. They are clueless!!!!! Happy New Year !!!!!!!!