Wow, that is a lot of great information, thanks! It's so nice to have validation as well. I'm still having trouble finding a balanced perspective with what I should expect from him. How much should I accommodate his sensitivity and how much should I try to desensitize him? Do I prevent meltdowns at all costs (even if it means we hole up in our house like hermits)? I know I need to make changes in my parenting, but I want to do it "right," and I'm not sure what that is yet. Is there a parenting book you would recommend? Thanks again, it's wonderful to talk to someone who understands and doesn't dismiss me, look at me like I'm crazy, or judge me.