It is a process, but once you know what the triggers are you can help to stop them before they start. I know now every instance that will set him off. I talk to him before hand, ' If blah blah blahh happens ' you cannot hit, scream, hide, etc... He went to his best friends Saturday and usually when it is time for me to pick him up he will go in a corner and hide, he will get a smart mouth, etc... So we discussed this before he got there. The punishment would be he would not go back. He is too old to be hiding from me,when it is time to go it is time to go! He is VERY fortunate to have found a friend at school who is very laid back, they are like long lost twins, he just adores my son and when Logan is mean or has a behavior his friend will tell me ' It is ok, he is my best friend". They are 8 years old. I thank his mother all the time for giving birth to this child! He plays with other kids, but gets frustrated much easier then he does with this boy. So there is hope, a lot of discussion before you go somewhere I have found helps as well with age. I am still horrified to leave him at a persons house which is not often! It is mostly because that maybe the parent might not understand why he is doing something, so I always explain ahead of time, then hope for the best! It will all come with time, stay strong, in shape lol for all the chasing, you guys will be ok.