Hi Moshpa,

I feel for you! This has to be the hardest area for us as well.

I think what has helped with our son who is 6, is:
Have a set routine, preferably with visual prompts
Give him enough time - don't let him sleep in or keep playing until you are rushing to finish and leave in time. Our son becomes impossible if we get to this stage!
Either help him set out clothes the night before, or put these out for him on his bed/non-cluttered surface so everything is readily available
Try warn him ahead of time that you're going to be changing to doing something else, or that you'll be leaving. We warn our son 10 minutes ahead of time and then every 2 minutes after this so that he can disengage from what he's doing and start thinking about the next thing.


The shoes & socks could be a reaction to tactile sensitivity. The falling off his chair could also be a vestibular sensory issue and might not be something he can help. Maybe try a vibrating toothbrush as these apparently work better for SPD kids...?

If I can recommend a book that's been a great help to me as a starting point - it's concise and doesn't overwhelm you with lots of information - it's "Answers to questions teachers ask about sensory integration". It contains symptom checklists for every age bracket from infant to adult, and a very handy breakdown of what behaviours are typical with disfunction in which sensory area.
http://www.amazon.com/Answers-Questions-...1932565469

OTplan.com can be very helpful in guiding you in activities you can start with your son while you wait for further assessments, etc.

I can't quite believe that comment from the child psychologist... wow. o_0