She really sounds like a little character! I'll bet she's pretty creative in other ways, too. So many of us seem to be who have SPD.

Earphones should be fine if they're the kind that attach around the ear (cover the whole outer ear). That will help with the vestibular, as well. Although, are the ear buds your using the kind that go in the ear canal and not the kind that just sit in that little spot in front of it? If it's the latter, I know just where she's coming from; they always feel like they're falling off to me. lol Just wanted to make sure I was clear that it's the ones that go in the ear canal that work best for me. But if those are the ones she has problems with, the other earphones should help, too. Part of what you're looking for is the masking of the outer sounds, part is the "stillness" of the air into the ear that affects the pressure on the eardrum. That stillness makes you feel steadier.

I wish I could handle grits and oatmeal! lol It sounds like you have the nutrition problem well under control. It's always funny to me how different SPD people with oral defensiveness have often very different food textures they can and can't handle. The only one that seems to be across the board is mac and cheese... everyone seems to love that!

I think it's a great idea to get the other kids in on the activities she does for her sensory diet. That should help her tremendously in feeling less "different" or anything. Plus, the changes in how it makes her feel will make her more able to participate in other activities with her siblings, so it's a win-win for all the kids.

For the sunglasses, she might like something that's polarized better than just a plain old dark lens, especially if it bothers her that much. I find that the darker lenses really make things harder for me to see (especially on rainy days), and the polarizes lenses keep out the worst glare without making me feel blind. I don't know how hard those will be to find in her size, but I'm betting it'll be worth the effort.

I can't wait to see how she likes the corn brush and mouth massager. I have been tempted to get similar things to help me with my oral defensiveness, so I'll be interested to see what she thinks of them and if they help her.

I'm enjoying hearing about her and your family. She really sounds so much fun! I love how our kids are all such individualists. lol I look forward to hearing more. Take care, and we'll chat again later!