I know what you mean about loving being in love. But what I've found even better than being "in love" is being in a committed relationship with someone I've chosen to continue to love after the glow is gone. Sure, it's hard work. And yeah, we have to work to understand and accept one another. And as you said, it's vital that everything is above board and honest. It's worth the time and dedication to find someone who is like that. When times are hard, nothing is better. And when times are good, the triumph is sweet.

You know, every one of us has a different artist or style of music that gets them better. I get a lot out of the Indigo Girls, Nina Simone, Dead Can Dance, Metallica, some good opera singers (it has to be in tune!), and Chopin nocturnes can all do great for me in different moods/situations. That's why I'm beginning to get addicted to my mp3 player (suggested by Dan, thank you!) and my earbuds that go in the ear. My boss loves Taylor Swift; he calls her his guilty pleasure. lol There's really not a right or wrong answer there. And giving yourself a certain amount of ear candy for your stimulation is very helpful!

You know, there are places that make very firm pillows that are long enough to wrap all the way around your body. If that is comforting to you, it may be worth the investment. I'm very tempted myself, but we have too much in our bed already with my son in the middle. lol (Yes, we're trying to get him in his own bed. We'll see how that goes... Daddy is fighting it! lol) And if you like super firm pillows, you might like buckwheat hull pillows. I used one of those for years and loved it. I would sometimes drape it over my shoulders for long drives or when I sat for long periods of time... it's very relaxing.

I'm glad I was able to reach out for you. I know it's hard sometimes to find someone to listen. I hope you won't give up on reaching out and trying; there are other hands willing to find yours, if you look. The most important thing is to not pull back before they get a chance to reach for you.