Explain? Heck, getting the right words for this is next to impossible! lol

In my case, it worked out naturally because of other issues that I have. We had to deal early on with my sexuality issues because I was sexually abused as a kid as well as emotionally and mentally. He is a sensitive guy, so we worked together on things. He was willing to stop when I said stop, he was willing to listen when I said I needed to tell him about something, and he seriously tries to do what I ask when I ask. All the ingredients of a good marriage, regardless of what each person brings to the table.

Mind you, it is definitely a struggle. And we are not without issues. When I first got the diagnosis, explaining it to him was a challenge. But, he knew that I wasn't making it up. After all, I had been struggling for so long with all the issues, and none of the "normal" things had been helping. He knew me well enough to know that, when the things I was doing worked, I felt better. He could see a difference in me and my life. He knew that it was working. And because he loves me, he is supporting me. Mind you, he might give me a look like "say what?!" when I first tell him about what I want to do for this or that. But he goes along, and he tries, and he loves. And that's really all I can ask.

As for starting the relationship, yes, it was a huge challenge. But I guess it was the right time for both of us. I really don't know what else to say about that; since attraction is, at best, a form of temporary insanity, I guess you can judge that for yourself. lol