Im mum to 4 children the youngest of them is almost 6 and our adopted little girl. Birth mum drank through her pregnancy.

Shes a petite little girl about the smallest in her class, she was a fairly easy baby just a little whingy but as she hit around 1 things changed. She initialy developed a thing with food, it was almost like she used it as an emotion and got so distressed about it like it was something she had been deprived of, she hadnt she was in care from newborn.

She then developed issues with clothes around the age of 2, she would only wear particular clothes and if something wasnt right she would get really upset, she couldnt have bumps in socks, wouldnt wear dresses her hair had to feel right.

She was also quite stubborn and very hyper, her nursery teacher spoke of her obsession with another child, her poor sharing skills and how if they did something new she would have to explain and my daughter would either be ok or go off on one and refuse to do it. She said she didnt feel it was autism with her. The health visitor suggested she may have ocd and sent me on a parenting course.

She got worse with clothes and behaviour but i felt that any problems would be picked up in school and maybe it was just us. Her reception teacher said she was behind and shouted out, didnt like waiting and so on but she said if she was the same towards the end of the yr she would get in touch.

Year one noone had said there was an issue but we were having so much trouble, clothes were a nightmare, i open her clothes drawer with fear and dread from what to expect, she was hyper than ever. I spoke to her teaching assistant who told me there was nothing wrong with her she was just stubborn and had a bad attitude.

Her class teacher at parents evening seemed to be on my page, he said she has no concentration, fidgets, is very behind and made little progress since last year, she shouts out and her memory is very poor.

I asked for someone to see her in january and two days ago we finally got seen by camhs. We spoke about her issues with clothes, the waist bands have to be really tight, her socks cant have bumps in, shoes have to be fastened really tight and both match in tightness or she kicks them off, her sleeves have to be the same and right length, her bobble has to touch her head in the right place, it has to be the same style, the neckline on her tops has to feel right. Shes very much a rough and tumble kid, much rather be rushing around with boys than sitting nicely with girls, she also seems to hurt out pet dog every day, she hugs him far too tight. She likes things to be just right and in her way.

After the doctor had spent some time alone with my daughter she came back and said that my daughter is very very fidgety, she has poor eye contact and cant recognise or express emotions.

As her mum drank i know her issues could be from this but does the clothes thing sound like spd or something else? Sorry this is long and waffling