Yikes! I feel like your accusing me of not giving my daughter enough affection and attention except when she goes potty. She's the only child in our house, we adopted her after our adult sons had moved out, we love her unconditionally and hug, kiss and tell her we love her throughout each and every day. Because of the SPD diagnosis, it's the first time in two years we've had any hope or encouragement that her inability to potty train is not our fault. For a mother of a child with SPD I would have anticipated you would be more understanding and supportive. Unfortunately, you come across as arrogant, opinionated and judgemental. I'll have to rethink this whole forum participation thing. I feel worn out, guilty and down in the dumps most days after working and devoting every spare moment to a child who requires constant supervision. I thought joining this forum would brighten my day, give me some encouragement and expose me to experiences others are having with their SPD child, but thus far it's just adding to my load of stuff that makes me feel like crap.