Hello, Im Emma, 30 year old mum of 4 kids. Eldest is 6, youngest is 12 weeks. My concern is with my 2nd eldest, 4y/o Matilda (Tilly) and I really am not sure where to start. My husband is not particularly interested in finding out whether Tilly has SPD or any 'condition' as such, as he does not like the idea of labelling her. Ive also been discouraged to investigate further by other family members (their profession are teachers) so I feel a little trapped. Here is a unique little girl that I really find such a challenge with how to deal with her, I hope that I am able to sound out a lot of my challenges with you people to see if Im heading in the right direction. I need to learn how to deal with my special little person. (even if we never label her) and give her the best upbringing I can.
Thanks!

Her symptoms are as follows:
Finds it very difficult to keep eye contact
Very floppy, sits W legged
In social gatherings even with children she keeps to herself
Very habitual in what food she likes
Often sits around in a lethargic state (sucking thumb)
Doesnt feel the need to communicate verbally, so often pushes
Very slow to respond to her name being called
Gets very distressed when disciplined
Clumsy, used to quite regularly fall on her face
Only likes to wear dresses/skirts. Doesnt like to have a jumper or leggings with it.
Doesnt like to be kissed goodnight on the lips.
Will never initiate a hug.
Will play alone for hours, imaginary play.
Late toilet training, still having accidents 1 year later, doesnt feel the need to go.

These are the most obvious ones I can think of off-hand.