Hi, all, thanks for all your help on the hair-pulling issue, and I'll be posting more on that. This afternoon, I am meeting with the OT that Bobby has been working with for about 9 months now. One question I have is, she asked me to read "The Out of Sync Child," and she has made various suggestions to my husband and me that seem to reflect SPD strategies, but she has never said outright that she believes Bobby has SPD.

So, I asked her in an e-mail, and we will discuss today, is there value to a label? Would getting a formal SPD diagnosis require a more extensive evaluation? What I'm gathering in a cursory search is that school systems resist granting IEPs based on SPD, so would that make a difference?

I admit, I'm really kind of frightened and sad now. When I went to the site for instructions on making weighted blankets, the site owner's latest blog post describes her son slamming into her, and Bobby has been doing that to me, I just didn't make that connection. (She talks about her 6yo doing that weighing 45 lbs. Well, Bobby is 38 lbs at almost 3; I hope to heaven a lady I spoke to last week who told me the weight gain slows down now and they grow upward is right.) Last night, Bobby had me up all night wanting me to sleep with him, although he did seem to improve a bit on the hair-pulling when I told him that Huggy Bear was his friend and it didn't hurt him to pull his hair.

Are there questions you can suggest I ask? I work, so it's hard to sit down with the OT. She usually comes to his day care first thing -- just getting the twins out of the door on time for the appointment is a strain -- and sometimes we can chat before I have to leave.

Thanks for all your advice,

Maggie