Hey!

So the anticipated wedding where my fiancée was a groomsman came and went. He's my hero, he looked so handsome and stayed till the end when the bride and groom left.

Our wedding is 5 months away now and there's a couple things on my mind. First of all, soon after he put on the groomsman tux, he threw up. The tie rubbing against his Adam's apple really bothers him. He threw up once more after that too. I get angry when people tell him he's not smiling enough. I mean, after I throw up, I just wanna curl up into a ball and cry. Yet he goes back into the party to get more pictures taken of him in the wedding party. That would be the absolute LAST thing I'd wanna do. Again, he's my hero.

He said for our wedding day he'll just suck it up, throw up a couple times, and then take the tie off as soon as the ceremony and pictures are done. But I'm wondering if there are other options. Any ideas? Are any of you really bothered by ties too?

The other thing is, he really seems to be a lot less uncomfortable after a few glasses of wine. He said he never wants to use alcohol as a crutch, but you can tell he's a lot calmer. I'm wondering if there is an anxiety medication that he can take before a wedding that would help to calm him down first. He's tried a couple anxiety medications before and I know they either haven't helped or the side effects have been too bad.

Does anyone else use anxiety medications to help with SPD and are there particular brands or kinds that work better?

Thanks guys.

PS - We are SO excited to be married!! Five months couldn't go by fast enough!!!!!