HUGS! I'm so sorry! That sounds like an awful day! I know it can be easier said than done sometimes but I would try to intercede when your mom is saying/doing things like that. I know it's hard sometimes. I was at a family picnic once and all the kids were playing in the yard and the grown-ups were on the deck talking. My older son who is often slow to warm up in situations (even familiar situations sometimes) was sitting next to me just hanging out. My BIL (my hubby's sister's husband) decided to be a real a$$hole for some reason and really teasing my son in a mean way about why he was just sitting next to me and not playing with the other kids in the yard. I guess I was in such shock over his meanness that I didn't say anything, didn't defend my son and I still kick myself that I didn't tell BIL to just back off!

My mom told me that I was just letting my younger son "push my buttons" (manipulate me) when it comes to his picky eating. Hubby rolled his eyes at me when I bought wiggle seats for the boys to use at dinner time. It drives hubby crazy when they tip their chairs or don't stay in their seats at dinner, so I got the wiggle seats to try to see if it would help. They do help in the fact that they don't tip their chairs and they stay seated--they do wobble around somewhat, but they stay in their chairs! I got an eye roll and a long sigh from hubby. Hubby also yells more when they have meltdowns. I keep telling him that yelling at them will just make the meltdown worse.

HUGS!! I know I feel so alone sometimes in dealing with this. I bring them to all their appointments and therapies, I go to the IEP/PPT meetings, I try to give them a sensory diet at home.