We have had days just like the OP's, when somebody who just doesn't get it triggers my son and the whole day is hell for us both.

That being said, since he started on Omega fatty acid treatments, we have had ZERO meltdowns. In the 3 months prior to that, the meltdowns were getting more frequent and more intense by the day. But neurologist we're seeing now has my son on a supplements regimen that has made HUGE differences in his coping skills.

Sometimes gentle, appropriate nutrition therapy can do what the most loving parent can not. We can not change the connections in the brain that misfire and cause our kids to lack the skills to cope with certain situations; these kids are just chemically different through no fault of anyone's.

Have you been able to consult a neurologist or developmental pediatrician to see if any type of supplements might help?