Has she had any integration therapy? I don't have aspergers/autism and I've mostly figured out what to do on my own, (avoidance ftw XD) but even the little things help sometimes to make a difference. For me, I obsessively put lotion on my hands because feeling the air directly on my hands and feet is uncomfortable to me. (Which is why I mostly always wear socks.) Maybe it'd help to find the things that comfort her? Like smells a stuffed toys or in my case lots of hand lotion. (That might seem like not a big deal but I do freak out if I don't have any and because I keep building up layers sometimes I can't even open a door because my hands can't grip the nob. It's funny for me to giggle at, but humor helps.) I also am very picky about my clothes, so figure out what materials don't bother her, and don't give her anything itchy to wear. Like one little itch on your back from your clothes can turn into a feeling like ants are covering your body. At least with me, that's what it is like.If you make her as comfortable as you can, then maybe introduce one stressor to her, in a controlled way, so that she slowly becomes more ok with it. So with being held, maybe put clothes on her that give her that snug I'm being held feeling, while not like putting her in straight jacket (I can only imagine that'd be the worst.) so like clothes that more heavy, then as you walk with her and your arms are around her she can get used to the weight of the clothes. Then as she's walking slowly hold her less, until you're just there and she thinks you're around her. Then show her that you aren't and she's doing fine on her own? When I was a kid, I was afraid to have my training wheels taken off of my bike so my parents kept raising it up more and more, until they weren't actually being useful. Just seeing them there was a comfort to me though and when they felt I was ready, they showed me that I was riding my bike all along without help. This made it easy to take the wheels off since I knew I didn't need them anymore. Maybe the same type of thing can be used on your daughter? I'm no expert, so if it helps that's good, but stop if it seems like it's not helping.