That sounds so familiar to me! My husband gets so frustrated sometimes that I'm hearing a "wobble" in the noise of the fan that we use to try and block other sounds at night. Or I'll smell something or hear something. Or he'll scratch is nose in bed or something ridiculous like that and I just bolt upright in alarm. We haven't been able to sleep in the same bed for close to three years. It seems to be getting worse for me, just the anxiety of having him there is enough to put me on alert.

I wish I had some suggestions for you. Earplugs can work sometimes - but I find that with snoring and some other noises I feel the vibration even if I can't hear the noise. Smell . . . can I tell you how good it is to hear that I'm not the only one who is affected by this? Sometimes I can't even face in the same direction as my husband because I can smell his breath, or just his normal body odor. And I'm too timid to say "dude, go use some Listerine" or "you need a shower."

Anyway . . . I know that wasn't at all helpful to you, other than to perhaps know that you're not alone in how you're feeling.

I would say (from experience) that alcohol can only numb so far, and then it can make things worse.

I hope you're able to get some relief! I hope we're all able to get some relief!

Take care,
Amy