You are definitely not alone. We had to fight for years to get our son help. It took until October 2012 before people started seeing the same things we have been seeing at home, especially once his aggression kicked in in first grade (my son will be 8 in two months and is in second grade). After his kindergarten teacher treating him so bad, I learned the hard way you can't back down from the school at all. My boy has to have noise cancelling head phones at school and can barely handle assemblies or gym, let alone lunch.