Thanks heather!

That's basically my thinking here too... but everyone seems to get touchy the moment I try ask if it's at all possible that he's bored. The school has an attitude of if a child says they're bored, he likely doesn't understand the material and needs to do more of the same - they put this in a supposedly tongue in cheek newsletter at the beginning of the year under 'what teachers wish they could tell you'.

The OT did observe him on a monday recently - she said he behaves perfectly, listens, concentrates etc. She said she'll observe again on a Thursday next term to try find out what happens later in the week that makes him fall apart concentration-wise.

My other problem is that he seems to be underperforming at school. He got barely-adequate grades for stuff like knowing his birthday month and home address - things they had to learn last year and that he was given a good mark for at the end of the year. He also got the second lowest possible mark for knowing numbers up to 6 when he came home the other day and said 'mommy, you know what? (What?) '1,3,5,7,9,11, ummmm, 13..."
I just don't understand - and with homework he will go through 20 sums and the only mistake he made was to add one number instead of subtract because his sister was screaming and he got distracted...
It just doesn't compute.
I do know he becomes extremely unco-operative when he's heading for a meltdown and will say I don't know to everything, but surely the teacher must watch them over the course of the term and not just ask something one random day?

We are planning to up his omegas again and try ADDvance concentration drops, he does do gymnastics on thursday evenings, we thought it would help, but aren't sure yet if it does.
I do think we need to try add some heavy work to thurs mornings though, thanks!

I'm just so tired of everything being so hard.