(07-13-2012, 01:31 AM)LAC1961 Wrote: Yikes! I feel like your accusing me of not giving my daughter enough affection and attention except when she goes potty. She's the only child in our house, we adopted her after our adult sons had moved out, we love her unconditionally and hug, kiss and tell her we love her throughout each and every day. Because of the SPD diagnosis, it's the first time in two years we've had any hope or encouragement that her inability to potty train is not our fault. For a mother of a child with SPD I would have anticipated you would be more understanding and supportive. Unfortunately, you come across as arrogant, opinionated and judgemental. I'll have to rethink this whole forum participation thing. I feel worn out, guilty and down in the dumps most days after working and devoting every spare moment to a child who requires constant supervision. I thought joining this forum would brighten my day, give me some encouragement and expose me to experiences others are having with their SPD child, but thus far it's just adding to my load of stuff that makes me feel like crap.
Hi LAC1961. *Hugs*
I don't believe Marci was intending to make you feel down about yourself or your choices. None of us are perfect, and none of us have all the answers. The best we can do is to be supportive and offer suggestions.
I believe you've been doing an excellent job so far at this. You really have been. This is not an easy disorder live with, or to help a child grow up with, so things like this are incredibly common. Many SPD kids love diapers and have a hard time moving on to using the toilet. I know; according to my mom, I was one of them, lol. It takes time, patience, and the eventual point at which they become ready to move on.
I really think the OT she'll be getting soon will be beneficial for her, and for you. The OT should hopefully have some suggestions and advice for you, as well as protocols to help your daughter move beyond this developmental snag.
Best wishes to you, and please, I don't think anyone here is trying to be judgmental toward you. This is hard enough to deal with without that stuff, so I seek to put that out whenever it occurs. I want to remind everyone here that if they are feeling attacked or judged by another member, please let me know about it privately. Thank you.
Best wishes as you work on this challenge!