We have neighbors behind us, a boy RJ going into 3rd grade (8), his sister Ally who is going into 1st grade. There's also a new neighbor (military) with a 7 year old boy, Sylas.

Unfortunately, Davin (my almost 7 year old) has been teaming up with either RJ & Ally, or the other boy Sylas, and "ditching" Daegan (my 10 year old, officially SPD). This greatly upset Daegan and was crying. Soon after they did that, the younger kids went to play in the wooded area between our two houses and left their scooters in our driveway. Daegan retaliated by unscrewing the handle bars on all their scooters. This is the point when I became aware of what happened. I had Daegan fix all the handle bars and apologize to them. I also had a talk with Davin about the fact that I disapprove of "ditching" etc.

This happened near the end of the school year. The next day was Monday and I saw my neighbor, RJ and Ally's mom, as she was waiting on her driveway for her daughter to arrive off the Kindy bus at noon. I assumed her kids had mentioned about Daegan's behavior to her so I talked to her about it. I told her that Daegan has SPD and that part of it is that he doesn't really know appropriate behavior responses in social situations, but that we are helping him learn and that I had made him apologize to her kids for doing that to their scooters.

Do you tell other parents or people who come into contact with your kids?

I don't want it to come across as making excuses for him, but it just seems like it might be good to give them a heads up just in case more things happen.