Little update:
My OB had prescribed Busipone for anxiety an dsaid to give it a week and if it wasnt helping, to go see a psychologist. Well, a week went by and i had had a few more anxiety breakdowns. Yesterday I went to see a psychiatrist and she prescribed Lexipro to try so that i can continue trying to give my son breastmilk but if its not doing anything by next appointment then we would have to stop the breast milk and try some other stuff. She also said that the anxiety and depression might not be related to the SPD so we are going to go after that first and then she would send me to a councelor (as the psych is quite pricey xP) to try to work through some of the rest..... sooo I guess we will see if any of this works. I also discovered there is a local SPD group that has meetings every month for parents of SPD... Im debating if I should go just to learn more of what to watch for in my son (and maybe myself!) But i'm not sure just yet