Thanks for the replies. I am feeling overwhelmed with all the new information I am taking in about spd and other possible disorders, but it helps to know there are other people out there I can talk to about it.

I don't know enough about the preschool (yet) to know how much they are going to allow in terms of accommodations. However, the OT is working with her once a week at the preschool, so presumably she will be interacting with the teachers as well and my daughter to let them know what tends to work for her. Presumably. There is a developmental preschool in town as well, though my stepdaughter went there and I am not completely in love with it. However, the teachers there are trained to work with kids that have all types of issues, so that might be a better choice. I dunno.

My daughter (and saying 'my daughter' all the time is getting awkward...), Lucia, is at preschool again for the first time since my meeting with the child development people and the teacher. Lucia is still eager to go to school, and I was pleased with the way the teacher's aide interacted with her when she came in. So I may just need to keep calm and see how things go for a while. <deep breath>