Thanks. It's funny, I even said that to my friend, "I was told it's not the fact that he doesn't like having his hair washed, or the fact that he doesn't like loud noises that mean he has SPD, it's all the issues combined."

It's true, on playdates, you'd never know anything's wrong with my son to look at him, he looks like any other normal, busy boy. But like you said it's when you spend the day at home with him and see how he has to turn off the washer and dryer before he'll pee (because of the noise), how he's constantly stomping when he walks, how he rocks when he sits, when I'm homeschooling him and the way he's constantly distracted, how he can't sit still, how he refuses to wear jeans, has to feel the inside of his pants before he puts them on to make sure they're soft enough, how he turns his socks inside out before he wears them, how he won't touch his food until it's almost cold, how loud he can get, the meltdowns he has most days when we leave the house that I babysit at after school (doesn't transition well) etc... and forget about trying to get him in a public washroom. It doesn't happen.

Thankfully, we're learning his triggers, so we're able to avoid quite a few meltdowns (he went at least 2 weeks without washing his hair while we tried to figure out a way he could do it without a meltdown), but they still happen - mostly during transitions, and when he's overtired, or overstimulated. He doesn't handle "busyness" well, so when we've had a weekend where we're on the go alot, Mondays are BAD days. In fact, we stayed home from church today because the past couple days have been really rough.