(06-04-2010, 06:14 PM)D1G1T Wrote: Hi Arlenea ,

It's Dan here, from AllAboutKids. Thank you so much for joining, I hope this place becomes a great beacon of light for so many of us here.

(06-04-2010, 06:04 PM)arlenea92 Wrote: I have seen improvement in him but since he comes from a broken family it is hard to keep him on track. His father doesn't believe that SPD is the source of his behavior problems and won't participate in his therapy.

Well, I'm sorry to hear all of this. It can be pretty rough to get some people on board. A lot of the time, it seems, it's the fathers who aren't the most accepting of the diagnosis or supportive of the therapy. All I can say for the most part on this matter is that you are certainly not alone in those regards. I can't tell you how many mothers have told me their spouse is not being very supportive of them.

What I do want to say though, is that you are in like company here, and we know you are doing the right things; doing what it takes to get the help your son so badly needs. You are doing a great job, this is not an easy battle at all.

Quote:The reason I'm here is to get support because essentially I'm doing this alone and I get very frustrated at times especially when he has come back from his dad's house.

I can understand this, for sure. Going it alone is never easy. Going it alone with an SPD child can quickly seem like a real life nightmare, can't it? Well, I hope this place is able to provide you the help and support you need to not feel so alone in this journey.

Just curious, have anything you like to do in your spare time? Any interests of your own? Sometimes, with all the hectic stuff that happens when your raising a kid like this, someone ends up getting lost in the mix: you! Here we can discuss it all, so feel free to chat about whatever you want here. It's important to remember that SPD does not rule your life, no matter how much it may seem to.

Take good care, and I hope to get to know you better on here, as well .
Hope you enjoy your time on SPDI!

Well right now I'm unemployed and without a car so I don't get to do much for myself. But when I can borrow someone's car I like to go and get pedicures and manicures.

I have been unemployed for almost 2 years now but I truly believe that God is looking over me and that being home for my son is what I'm suppose to be doing except for the unemployment money is going to run out soon.

I'm getting ready to move tomorrow so that I'm closer to my son's dad's house because of not having a car.

Today has been particularly challenging because all of our stuff is packed and the pool has a leak. So we are at a loss as what to do. Right now my son is playing with the hose and seems to be having a good time and he is doing that only because I had to get him out of the house and away from the tv.

I hope to talk to as many of you as I can to get some advice on how to handle the tantrums.

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I would also like to ask what are some ways to control my son's behavior at school?