Hi, yes, we are experiencing the same, and it is just wearing us down. I'm really worried that my husband is getting so burned out he might be thinking about leaving me. Worse, his fraternal twin brother, is almost as willful and disobedient, although he doesn't have Bobby's sensory seeking behaviors.

Like yours, they are much more tractable in group settings. Bobby is also much more likely to cooperate with a stranger than us. We're trying to work with "123 Magic," but just finding time to read a book is difficult. The twins just turned three, and I haven't taken them in for their yearly check-up, but when I do, I want to ask their pedi whether she thinks Bobby should be seen by a pediatric neurologist or child psychiatrist.

Take care,

Maggie

(04-11-2013, 04:44 PM)moshpa Wrote: Hi, I'm new here, posted an intro a few days ago on the introductions board. In a nutshell, I live in France and am 99% certain my 5 year old son has SPD, mainly sensory seeking.

But my question is: do you find that your sensory seeking child is also defiant and / or disobedient? That is what has my husband and me at our wit's end. We fight with him from morning to night, everything from "put your socks and shoes on" to "stop falling off your chair" to "brush your teeth and go to bed" - every single thing we say to him sets off a tantrum.

We're having a terrible time getting him seen here, and finding someone to figure out what is going on with him. We saw a child psychologist today whose response was: "Well, he is interesting, isn't he. I've never seen a child like him before." I wish I was joking.

The defiance is mainly towards my husband and me, it rarely comes out at school or in sports, though today at the psych's office, she asked him to do things (put away things he'd been playing with) and he blatantly ignored her like he does to us, and she & we had to ask him repeatedly. (But he didn't dissolve into a tantrum like he does with us.)

Sorry to ramble on... after 5 years of this behavior and little help from any quarter, I just don't know what to do or where to look at this point.